Avoiding Un-Islamic Practices in Wedding Ceremonies
One of the greatest tragedies casting a shadow over the Muslim world today is the sorrow of disobedience and rebellion by heedless individuals—those who, without shame or concern for their honor, openly defy Allah Almighty. They don’t even consider that their actions might be wrong or displeasing to Allah and His Messenger. One of the most common areas where such disobedience occurs today is in wedding ceremonies. Modern weddings have become symbols of rebellion against Allah, as they are devoid of any remembrance or mention of Him. Those who attend these un-Islamic weddings and engage in singing, dancing, and entertainment are in reality followers of Satan, guided by him.
In today’s society, we witness weddings that are filled with all kinds of sins and immoral acts. Girls and women, dressed in immodest and extravagant makeup, walk the streets to attend weddings that are nothing but gatherings of heedlessness toward Allah. These events are dominated by music, dance, and joy detached from any spiritual value. Women, to entertain others, dance and act flirtatiously like clowns, and some even go so far as to dress half-naked—because this has become a trend. These un-Islamic celebrations often lead to emotional harm and moral corruption. Women who dance attract opportunistic men who film them, and after the wedding, the videos are spread on everyone’s phones. By the time these sisters suffer the consequences, it’s already too late.
If a wedding were conducted in accordance with Islamic principles, it would not only bring blessings but would also protect against sin. Nowadays, out of every hundred women attending such events, only five perform prayers—most neglect prayer because their makeup prevents them from making wudu (ablution), so they miss their obligatory prayers. What value does this makeup have when it’s not for a husband but for others, and when it leads to abandoning Allah’s command and falling into sin and disobedience?
Dear sisters! This attachment to worldly pleasures is ultimately useless if it leads one to neglect the hereafter and abandon divine obligations for the sake of superficial beauty. It is truly regrettable that today’s weddings are no longer about offering a walimah (wedding feast). According to Islamic tradition, both rich and poor should be invited to a walimah, but in today’s society, poor people have no place in the weddings of the wealthy—they are not even acknowledged. Some arrogant and wealthy individuals do not even consider the poor as part of humanity, let alone invite them to their events. They assume these people are a disgrace, forgetting that their own disobedience to Allah makes them the true disgrace of society.
Respected parents must remain vigilant and build their children’s homes on the foundation of faith so their lives may be filled with divine light. If weddings are held in un-Islamic ways, all sins committed there will also affect the organizers. Some families today, simply to keep up with others, take out massive loans for wedding expenses just to say, “So-and-so spent this much.” As a result, the poor groom ends up repaying the debt for ten years after the wedding and cannot move forward in life. Is this truly worth it? The Sharia offers a simpler way to marry—an Islamic wedding. With minimal expenses, one can organize a wedding full of blessings in both this life and the hereafter. Therefore, turning to Islam in all aspects of life is the best option.
Avoiding Free Mixing of Men and Women
As you are aware, we live in an age where progress and civilization are emphasized above all. As a result, men and women strive not to fall behind in the race for success and do everything they can to advance. Women, too, are active in fields such as business, banking, sports, and more. However, in this pursuit, one essential principle has been forgotten: faith. It is faith that saves a person from the painful punishments of Allah—not progress or modernity. Faith is what protects against the torment of the grave, not commerce or careers.
Why are people so consumed by this temporary world while having no concern for their hereafter? Why do they not heed the words of Allah Almighty? Why do women not observe hijab in front of non-mahram men and gather in environments filled with sin? Have women forgotten their true status? A status that the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) defended. A woman can be a role model for others by adhering to hijab and avoiding unnecessary interaction with non-mahram men. She can be an exemplary mother, sister, wife, and daughter, sharing the love and compassion that Allah has placed within her with her family.
Dear sisters! Can wealth and fame ever replace love? The love a woman offers to her husband and family is far more precious, and no wealthy person can be truly happy without it—unless Allah wills otherwise. A woman who works solely for money, even if it means interacting with non-mahram men and disregarding fear of Allah, holds no real value in Islam, nor does her wealth bring true happiness. Without faith, true happiness is impossible. Even her children and husband cannot experience a joyful family life, because when money is present but maternal and spousal love is missing, that wealth cannot bring real joy. So, at what cost are you withholding your love and affection from your family for the sake of wealth? Is it really worth it?
To uphold human dignity and protect individuals from sin and shame, Islam has declared interaction between women and non-mahram men to be forbidden—except in cases of necessity.
On the subject of living a marital life, Hakim al-Ummah Mawlana Ashraf ‘Ali Tahanwi (MABH), in his book Ziwar al-Jannah (The Ornament of Paradise), has provided highly valuable insights and beneficial advice for women aimed at improving marital relations. Based on our current needs, we will present selected passages from the fourth section of Ziwar al-Jannah here. Allah Almighty had granted Mawlana Ashraf ‘Ali Tahanwi (MABH) a unique spiritual insight, and he authored many beneficial books on women’s issues, offering guidance that will be shared with our respected readers in the next section.
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