Author: Obaidullah Nimruzi
The Mother of the Believers, Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa, R.H, “Let’s know better!” (2nd part):
From birth to marriage
In the land of Hijaz, there was a house whose people were honest and sincere. In that house, a girl named “Ayesha” opened her eyes to the world, as if Allah Manan wanted to show the place and dignity of a woman to the world of humanity and to teach everyone the true meaning of life. Yes! Ayesha Siddiqa was born in a house where the best scholar of humanity after the Prophets, Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddique, may Allah be pleased with him, lived there.
Because they were in the category of the friends of Allah and the Messenger, this caused this innocent child not to be infected with polytheism and idolatry, but from birth, the light of faith and monotheism was placed in her heart, and she grew up under the light of Um Roman and Abu Bakr’s honesty and faith.
A girl whose father was Abu Bakr, who was known as the helper of the Prophet of Islam, PBUH, during the journey and presence, night and day, morning and evening. She is characterized by the morals of the Prophet and one of the first people who reached under the umbrella of Islam, and a mother like Umm Ruman, who is a clear example of a faithful, brave and pious woman who sees everything with the light of insight, such a girl will undoubtedly have a very bright future.
The marriage of the Holy Prophet PBUH, with Hazrat Aisha Siddiqa, R.H.
When the Holy Prophet, PBUH, lost his wife and life partner, Khadijah Al-Kubra, he was deeply saddened. Because Khadijah was one of the first people who believed in the mission of the Holy Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and sacrificed everything for the sake of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.
The reason was the distance and absence from the kind and caring wife for the Holy Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, which was bitter and painful. In this same year, many problems happened to the Holy Prophet, PBUH; For this reason, this year has been called “‘Am al-hazn” which means the year of sadness.
Since the companions and friends of the Holy Prophet of Islam were not ready to see the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sad and upset for a moment, it was impossible for them to see such a heartbreaking and sad scene, and on the other hand, no one dared to propose marriage to the Prophet (peace be upon him) to get rid of this sadness.
Until a woman named “Kholeh bint Hakim” came and caused this pain and suffering to end; Therefore, she suggested to the messenger of Allah the marriage and choosing a new wife as a companion and life partner, Prophet, PBUH, said, “With whom?” Khula bint Hakim said: Among the virgins, the daughter of Abu Bakr Siddique, Hazrat Aisha Siddiqa, may Allah be pleased with her, and from among the widows Soudah bint Zamah. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to go and inform them. [Women of Ahl al-Bayt, p. 111]
Joy and happiness along with fear and anxiety
When Kholeh Bint Hakim told Umm Ruman about the courtship story, she was very happy and quickly told the story to Hazrat Saddiq Akbar, at first he was very happy but suddenly great sorrow covers him because it reminded him of a case that was very disturbing, the story was that a person named “Mota’am” had already proposed to his son; this was the moment when the sky and earth become narrow for Saddiq Akbar, may Allah be pleased with him, because, he promised marriage. And breaking a covenant had no place in his nature at all, and on the other hand, he would lose the golden opportunity for kinship and connection with the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.
This is where the Almighty Allah makes the heart of Hazrat Abu Bakr Seddiq, R.H happy, and gave him what he likes. Muta’am was an irreligious person and a disbeliever, since he knew the relations, affection, love, and faith of Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddique’s family towards the Prophet of Islam, so he withdrew his proposal. Because he was afraid that with the arrival of Abu Bakr Siddiq’s daughter, his family would convert to Islam.
Finally, the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) officially proposed to Ayesha Siddiqa. But regarding the exact date of marriage, there are many differences between historians and hadith scholars; Because there is no solid evidence in this regard, some people believe that the marriage ceremony took place at the age of six, and when she reached the age of eleven, the wedding ceremony and transfer to the lucky house took place. Some others believe that the marriage took place at the age of seven, and when they reached the age of ten, they visited the house of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.
But the opinion of Imam Bukhari and Ibn Hisham and the owner of Tabaqat Kabri, may Allah have mercy on them all, is that Hazrat Aisha Siddiqa, may Allah be pleased with her, was nine years old when she moved to the house of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.
But the correct and exact saying is that Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa was not less than 13 years old and not more than 16 years old at that time; Because if we accept that the wedding ceremony and transfer to the house of happiness took place at the age of nine, then we must also accept the premise that the proposal was made at the age of four, and this was done with the purpose and motivation of Khula bint Hakim to remove grief.
And grieving for the Messenger of Allah, PBUH, and replacing someone else in place of Hazrat Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with him, are not compatible. And reason and logic do not like it either; Because marrying a four-year-old girl who is not yet capable of marriage and is completely unaware of the relationship between husband and wife is devoid of wisdom, and the efforts of Kholeh bint Hakim to suggest to a little girl in the hope that she will grow up in the future, and also Waiting for the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, for several years, with all that sadness, seem like a futile task.
Marriage with Ayesha Siddiqa, may Allah be pleased with her, the choice of Allah
This union and blessed marriage were determined and chosen by the Almighty Allah, therefore all the reasons and preparations for it were also provided. It is narrated in the book of Tirmidhi as follows: [2321] حدثنا إسماعيل بن علي وإبراهيم بن محمد، وغيرهما، بإسنادهم عن محمد بن عيسى، قال: حدثنا عبد بن حميد، حدثنا عبدالرزاق، عن عبدالله بن عمرو بن علقمة الملكي، عن ابن أبي حسين، عن ابن أبي مليكة، عن عائشة، «أن جبريل عليهالسلام جاء بصورتها في خرقة حرير خضراء إلى النبي صَلَّىاللَّهُعَلَيْهِوَسَلَّمَ فقال: هذه زوجتك في الدنيا والآخرة» Hazrat Jibreel (peace be upon him) brought Ayesha’s face and image on a green silk cloth with him and said: This is your wife in this world and the hereafter. According to this hadith and the sum of other hadiths, it is clear that this connection and marriage have been decided from above the throne and the heavens.
Marriage in the month of Shawwal and eliminating superstitions
In the time of ignorance before the advent of pure Islam, the month of Shawwal was considered a forbidden month, and marriage and any kind of happiness was forbidden in this month, although such a decree and sanction were not made by the Almighty Allah.
The Messenger of Allah may Allah bless him and grant him peace, because he wanted to break this ignorant custom which was against the commandments of Allah and revive the commandments and orders of the Lord of the worlds, he performed the marriage of Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa, may Allah be pleased with her, in the month of Shawwal. For this reason, Hazrat Mother loved the month of Shawwal very much.
From the house of the father to the house of fortune
After the emigration of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, to Madinah al-Munawaroh and after the Battle of Badr al-Kabra, preparations were made to transfer Ayesha Siddiqa from the mecca to Madinah.
The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was a great sage and an experienced teacher. He knew how to treat young Ayesha. The Holy Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, knew about the love of her parents towards her, and because of his love and wise dealings, Aisha preferred a simple and clean room to the whole world and its splendor.
Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa, may Allah be pleased with her, not only did not feel strange and homesick in her new home, but her enthusiasm, love, affection, purity, and sincerity covered her, and she was not ready to exchange one visit of the Messenger of Allah, for the whole world.
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